Tuesday, May 6, 2014

We work in a group

We work in a group, Hazrin, Sofia, Dayah, Yunhua and I. This semerster we spend almost everyday together in order to complete our thesis research, community intervention and cafeteria project. At first, I was wondering whether this combination of people can work up into a group or not, because all of us has different background and belief. However, from the very first day our partnership seems to be working up very well even though sometimes we have arguments or misunderstanding but we still appreciate each other very much. 

Even though we are not an efficient group, even though we are not hardworking enough, but we always find happiness and laughter during our time spending together. We talked a lot nonsense, this is how we distress after a half day data collection. We always share our stories with each other and laugh at each other for their silly actions, we like to syok sendiri, this is how we build our friendship. We make noise in car, we squeezed seven people in a five seats car and felt stupid and embarrassing. This is who we are!!! 


We spent two days in masjid in order to get more respondents for our thesis data collection. As a non-muslim, they requested us to tutup aurat as well because masjid is a very suci place and we need to respect the ajaran Islam. Evern though we are not used to dress up this way, it's hot and very uncomfortable, but we still make fun together. Many uncles come over and ask me 'adik baru masuk islam ke?', 'adik pakai macam ni cantiklah, terus je lah.','adik chinese? bukan melayu ke?', haha... I know my skin color always make people confuse whether I am a chinese or malay. What a different experience.

More fun are waiting for us to explore... I love my group ♥♥♥

Monday, May 5, 2014

爱,延续?

有人说,不成熟的爱多半是任性,还有不知名的勇气;成熟的爱少了任性,多了理智,却无法确定心的方向。人离离合合,爱爱恨恨,到底是为了什么?

爱一个人,何必在一起?生活牵系在一起,真的会这样爱着爱着就永远吗?如果这是一个据实的说法,那分开了就真的不爱了吗?如果曾经在乎你的人已经变得什么都无所谓了,那样是感情,爱情还是无情?有人说,女人的爱是渐增制,男人的爱是渐减制,我看却不是如此,如果够爱什么都不一样了。

《爱我请留言》是一套述说爱情的香港电视剧,编剧正讽刺现在科技发达所造成的无效率沟通。以前想念一个人,就想天天陪在身边,现在想念一个人,只是一个指尖在手机荧幕上滑动就算了。这样的在一起也算是真正的在一起了吗?这样跟手机谈恋爱是否更孤独了?曾经想坦白的事,现在都隐藏了,这又是为什么?情侣之间少了坦白的勇气,只会把距离拉得更遥远吧。

最近看剧时,一直有莫名的感触,我们在一起后你好像少了以前阳光的笑容,是生活压力所逼还是我们之间不再一样了?“我遗失的是你的笑容,你遗失的是我们两个一起的快乐;如果你的快乐再不是因为我,那我其实已经遗失了你。”,是这样吗?如果情侣之间的沟通要很努力的维持,尽力为了让对方满意,这样的联系很苦吧。

如果一段爱情敌不过平淡,那我和你是否无法走下去?我学会了用自己的方式更爱你一些,学会不以泪洗面,学会了即使得不到回应,还是自顾自的坚持。朋友说也许是我把好的事都想得恢了一些,其实两个人相处不会一直甜甜蜜蜜,也许争吵也是一种爱的表现,只因为你太在乎对方。

Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love

你我的曾经是以笑回忆,笑让爱得以延续,未来是否一样?


Thursday, February 13, 2014

中西情人节

今天,二月十四日,元宵节也是情人节,十九年仅一次的特别日子。中西情人节快乐!!!在这一个成双成对的季节里,我们相隔350公里,这距离并不远,因为思恋让我贴你很近,不知道你是否也同样想着我。

曾经的曾经我以为情人节应该要很浪漫、很有爱,因为曾经的那个他会亲自送卡片和小礼物到我家,感觉无比幸福。但时间带着我成长,我开始发现也许平平淡淡的过着情人节也无所谓,特别是陪着父母过的情人节,一起感受他们的相爱与扶持,更让我感动。

今天,我们什么计划都没有,只是约定了,情人节不跟谁过,只跟家人好好处在一块。这是一个很不浪漫的浪漫计划,是吧?至少我是这么想的。寄了张卡片给你,也许你早已猜到了,在我确认你的地址的时候;但也许你很迟钝,并没有想过我会在开学前三天还寄了卡片给你。不管怎样,我只希望你真的喜欢我为你做的小小却很温馨的举动。呵呵~

虽然嘴里说着这样子过也无所谓,但还是会希望你陪在身旁。女生永远都很矛盾,绝对性的矛盾。

p/s:离开华语文学很久了,开始觉得自己不擅长打些含有文艺气息的句子。。。

Friday, January 10, 2014

Love 爱

It has been a year that I didn't update any post into my blog.

Recently I've had read a book about the philosophy of love, 《谈一场不分手的恋爱》by 张小娴. I found that some of the phrase really touch down in my heart. Everyone is seeking for a perfect one to love, but have you ever think about 原来爱情不是去爱一个完美的人,而是去接受他和我一样,是一个不完美的人; God makes everyone in their unique way, no one is perfect in life, because He is fair.

My life changed in the past one year, I ended my five years plus relationship and now I've been trying hard to walk into another relationship, 去习惯他的习惯. But I know that 阴晴圆缺,在一段爱情里不断重演,换一个人,也不会天色常蓝, therefore laughter, tears, arguments still remain as long as I'm in love. I am not a perfect person either, so 我哭、我闹, just because I am wanting for your care.

I think guys always wonder what their girls want? Does this question ever come to your mind? 女人想要的难道不明显吗?No matter what we are craving for, the answer would be lots of love and lot of 安全感。男人都不喜欢女人哭泣,但我们从不把眼泪留给不值得的人,我们只把最多的思念和最多的眼泪留给那个用尽生命深深爱着的他。

When you realized that your partner changed a lot day by day, many wrong information will send to your brain and tell you that 他对你的爱是减低制,但其实我们都没变,只是更贴近真实的彼此。Love a person who love you equally as you do, then the love will last. 试着接受、包容、宽恕彼此的不一样;在爱情里,对等的付出,这样爱着爱着就一辈子了。